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I identify myself as homosexual, but I cannot deny that I have had at least two strong crushes on women before.
One was my neighbour when I was ten and then one during my early 20's.
The concept of straight men who have sex with men challenges the traditional and for many the unyielding belief that sexual behavior is indicative of identity. Parsons, “Sexual Behaviors of Non-gay Identified Non-disclosing Men Who Have Sex with Men and Women,” Archives of Sexual Behavior 37, no. [iii] Daryl Hood, Garrett Prestage, June Crawford, Tania Sorrell, and Chris O’Reilly, "Report on the BANGAR Project: Bisexual Activity/non Gay Attachment Research Targeting Strategies Identification Project." (Sydney: National Centre in HIV Epidemiology and Clinical Research ,1994). Reback and Sherry Larkins, “Maintaining a Heterosexual Identity: Sexual Meanings Among a Sample of Heterosexually Identified Men Who Have Sex with Men,” Archives of Sexual Behavior 39, no. [v] STD Communications Database: Interviews with Non-Gay Identified Men who have Sex with Men (NGI MSM),” (Atlanta, Georgia: Orc Macro, 2005). Now that I've stated the obvious, we can then extrapolate from it that heterosexual males, even anonymously, do not provide honest or even rational responses to surveys about same sex activity.
Using this stricture as guide, a man who has sex with another male must be gay (or bisexual at the least). Recall from the first posting that researchers increasingly call for studies to include a comprehensive description of sexuality, one encompassing self-identification, arousal patterns, and behavior. King, On the Down Low: A Journey into the Lives of 'Straight' Black Men Who Sleep with Men (New York: Harmony Books, 2005). Some refuse to even acknowledge it to themselves let alone a questioner or questionnaire.
Other studies further elaborate the many reasons for SMSM substance use, including:[vii] As the above research demonstrates, we have a much better understanding of the lived experiences of SMSM in comparison to a mere decade ago. Ramamurthi, Cleo Manago, Sergio Avina, and Marvin Jones, “Sexual Behavior, Sexual Identity, and Substance Abuse Among Low-Income Bisexual and Non-Gay-Identifying African American Men Who Have Sex with Men,” Archives of Sexual Behavior 37, no. Then there was that time my friend Robby fell down the stairs and his weenie just happened to land in my mouth. That's why we end up with "accident" as an explanation for sexual activity.
Our relationship ended when he was about to graduate and claimed he was sick of being "your gf," and that he couldn't see it turning into a fullblown romantic relationship anyway.I had sex with women mostly out of curiosity and because they pursued me and I went with it.One woman I did feel genuinely attracted to though but not enough to establish a full relationship with her.To him it was just novel, intense sex and close friendship, not the sort of romantic/emotional bond he had with women. He characterized me as an anomaly which hurt because I was in love with him but I always knew anyway.We didn't just have sex but also kissed, cuddled, slept together most nights (we shared a room) and did all those things straight guys in these surveys deny doing.
We are emotionally involved and that is the hard part.