Dating someone 20 years old
Think about friends, acquaintances, work colleagues, and even extended family members with whom you socialize.Now, insert a significantly older partner in that picture.You might love his deep pockets, but with his great power comes your vulnerability.There is potential that you could never be financially equal to him, accepting this is key.
He can show you things you never knew possible, and you can teach him that new trick you learned in Cosmo. You won’t be dealing with the same texting, mixed signal bullshit that you’ve experienced in the past.
Realizing your new boyfriend is just a few years younger than your father is a harsh reality.
Remind yourself what ignited this initial attraction and focus on that.
You know some people think that age is just a number, but something about their relationship dosen’t sit right with you — from what you know, it seems like he’s made a habit out of dating young women.
Now she’s confiding in you that she sees herself marrying him, so how do you handle this?
I’ve heard so many different rules about dating someone older, and they all boil down to a magic number: “Don’t date anyone more than ten years older,” or “Marriages never work if there’s more than fifteen years’ difference.” People love rules, telling themselves that abiding by them will cause them to get hurt less. The most important rule to follow is a general one: Make sure the two of you have the same goals for the relationship and for your daily life together. Think about whether you want to get married; have a big or tiny wedding; have children; be with someone who already has kids; live in the future in the same town or city where you’ve been dating; move somewhere far or close; have extended family very involved or not very involved in your life; have a relationship where you socialize almost always together or often; have a partner who’s more of a social butterfly or homebody; and have a partner who is very involved or not very involved in extracurricular activities. Psychological Age You’ve probably heard someone say, “He seems young for his age,” or “She’s so young at heart.” Though we all have a chronological age, we also have what I refer to as a ‘psychological age.’ How old do you feel, for example? In addition, ask yourself what the psychological age is of your prospective older partner. Again, use those early months of a relationship to gauge whether your sexualities are congruent enough.