Dating good first dates
I found that people will not be offended if you suggest a first date before they are ready.
In my experience, the other person would offer an excuse but continue communicating.
I never went for phone conversations as a stepping stone from internet communication to meeting.
I tried phone conversations early on but had a few bad experiences with “excessive calling” and one case where a girl took it as a personal offense every time I had to get off the phone.
Honestly, I have never felt comfortable talking on the phone for long periods of time (even to close friends) so I prefer to jump straight from the internet communication to meeting.
If you enjoy talking on the phone or prefer to do so before meeting someone, treat this step like you would the first date by asking for the phone number by the third email.
Actually meeting the person you are talking to is one of the most important steps to online dating.
That sounds amusing but many online daters dwell on internet communication overly long. They wanted me to get the show on the road and they were right to feel that way.
After all, contacting someone is just a pre-cursor to the first date.
One common reason to delay a first date is due to an attempt to learn more about the other person. I found the first few minutes of the first date are worth more than dozens of emails.
Another reason to delay would be if the person you are communicating with has expressed extreme reservations about meeting people from the internet.
In contrast, many times the dates ended with coffee or lunch.
This approach is a cousin to the having-your-friend-call-you-and-faking-an-emergency act that some people think is so slick.
It’s not as if you hoping to “chat” with someone and end it there.