Dating and courtship in america
” I more recently found out (March, 2009), from another Indian priest, that India has the lowest divorce rate in the world.
(A strange web site confirms this.) Courtship, as opposed to dating, was the norm internationally, until technologically-enhanced modernity gave us another foolish bit of “progress.” “Teenage” Culture.
Since “test marriages” would be a violation of basic morals — even on the natural level — what we have instead is called courtship. I will not go into detail on many of those things one can read in a book such as Father Lovasik’s , or Father Kelley’s book on chastity I mentioned last week.
Courtship allows you to see if the one you’ve almost chosen is the one you’ll choose for life at the altar. This is a mixed audience and these subjects would be better handled in another venue, preferably in the home, where these books can be read with parents as your guides. What I would like to address is the notion of courtship and how it differs from the modern concept of dating.
Maybe next Saturday night, a similar scene will take place at his house, or perhaps the two families will get together for something, or maybe the two will be allowed to go together to a social function, but they will spend most of their time with family.
If they decide this is something they like, they may “go steady” for a while, but neither understands that as any more than a more intense — especially more emotionally and, God help us, physically intense — version of that first date they went on. After the food is passed around, there is lots of family conversation and Maurice is invited to participate in it.
so that, having learned the value of chastity, they will be able at a suitable age to engage in honorable courtship and enter upon a marriage of their own.” To emphasize how courtship is versus dating, I will cite the authorities of our own dear Brother Francis, and an Indian priest who lived with our community for some months, Father Pancras Christanand.
Brother Francis, born in Lebanon in 1913, assured me that “dating” did not exist in his Christian village of Mashra, nor in the surrounding areas.
I would also like to cover who is eligible to court and what some appropriate parameters are. In order to contrast courtship and dating, let me give examples of each. Tom, who has been legally eligible to drive for about a year now, goes to Sally’s parents’ house.
After knocking on the door, he may or may not be allowed in the house to wait for Sally to finish dosing herself with the final spritz of inexpensive yet surprisingly powerful perfume.
(This was written in preparation for a series of conferences on vocations and states in life that I gave at Saint Benedict Center in the Spring of 2005.