Sure, give any one a few months, and they’ll realize they’ve been a bit desperate and probably eventually stop, but this is very hard to do when your entire world falls below your feet. The author was brilliant at providing check lists so that you can pick out your situation and then gives you a road map to fix it.
Your first instinct, of course, is to stop the distance immediately at all costs. After reading the book, I saw my roadmap quickly, but I wasn’t going to anything about it.
It sort of teaches you how to turn the tables, get on “their side” as part of strategy and even the playing field. At that time, divorce was the worst possible outcome, but I was tired of feeling so out of control.
I was stunned to see that my trip / indifference was actually right on. Next up, him and the rest of my life just to survive, if I was honest with myself, I loved him and did not want a divorce. In the days before our outing, I read both books, cover to cover twice.
Instead, I chose to run away from the situation entirely.
If I haven’t bored you to tears already, scroll down (you can always scroll down on this blog) or change with my current desperate plan.
And, no matter whether we stayed married or not, I wanted to at least be able to look this man in the eye and maintain a cordial relationship.There was dead silence on the other end of the phone.Then, a colder tone replaced the earlier one and my husband (or ex, I should say) excused himself. He didn’t like when I pursued him, but now he didn’t seem to like that I wasn’t.I grabbed the book to see if I was doing something wrong, but according to it, I was sort of on the right track, although my method and my tone were not as lighthearted, matter of fact, or open as the book said I should be.I remembered the road map and figured I should maybe take a look at exactly what I should be doing.
Sure, we’d had our issues, but once upon a time, we were in perfect sync and truly happy, and nothing like the situation on our hands now. So, I panicked and went on a single handed — through threats, through begging, through desperate, (and now embarrassing) behavior.