Black women on black men dating white women
On a hot summer day in August 1955, a 14-year-old black boy was hanging out around a grocery store in Money, Mississippi.
His friends dared him to walk into the store and ask the white cashier for a date, so he complied.
Now that I am a mom of a black boy, this conversation about black men dating white women has once again fallen into my lap.
Although my son is only 6 years old and light years away from dating anyone, I know that I will one day have to talk to him about dating and race.
As a warning, she'd tell us the graphic details of Emmett Till's senseless death, and how he had died because a white woman had made a false allegation against a black boy.
Even though we were being raised in the 1990s, decades after Till's death, we all knew that racism was still alive and well in this country.
But this tale, among many others, has served as a cautionary tale for black families of what happens when white women and black men interact.
This tale, among many others, haunts me, because I am the mother of a black son — and I am terrified that my black son will date white women. My mother was very clear about the expectations she had for my brother and myself: she wanted us to keep our home clean, go to school, and, in my brother's case, she wanted him to never, ever bring home a white woman.
62 years later, Bryant admitted that she’d never actually been whistled at and that she had lied about major parts of the incident.
The cashier, Carolyn Bryant, later claimed that he grabbed her hand and said, "How about a date?
," though other reports contradicted her testimony.
In 2013, a record-high 12% of newlyweds married someone of a different race, according to a Pew Research Center analysis of census data.
(This share does not take into account the “interethnic” marriages between Hispanics and non-Hispanics, which we covered in an earlier report on intermarriage.) Looking beyond newlyweds, 6.3% of all marriages were between spouses of different races in 2013, up from less than 1% in 1970.
I will warn my son that if he falls in love with a white woman, he should make sure that she doesn’t refer to herself as colorblind, because to be colorblind or to say that you don’t "see race" is the same thing as saying that you are too uncomfortable with race to confront the baggage that comes along with it.