3 months of dating now what
When choosing the wrong man meant the difference between life and death, not just a number of hellish years followed by periods of grief and regret. Back then, when our numbers were much smaller, we understood that safety came with numbers and it was a matter of life and death when it came to choosing who would be in our inner circle.Choose a lazy man, and you faced a higher risk of death if you became pregnant.He was and is the most perfect guy I have ever meet and I am proud to say I'm carrying his baby (I'm due in 2 weeks).With that being said we have had a lot of beautiful times and a lot of tough times.Sex then meant that we “pair bonded”, for a period of 5 to 7 years (yes, we actually have a 7 year itch).We sought mates who proved to us beyond a doubt that they were strong, capable, and most of all, worthy or our survival risk.The fact is, we are sold fun-fun (short term FUN) as a way to achieve a long term, loving relationship, and it’s just plain wrong.
I was hurting inside, and he didn't want to talk about it which caused problems for us in a lot of other ways.Let me take you once again faaarrrr back into time, before advertising and TV programing warped our minds and convinced us to sell ourselves short when we’re looking for a man who will invest in us long term.Back to Cave Woman days when survival depended on us making good decisions not just on a daily basis, but on a moment to moment basis. And why SHOULDN’T we be looking for those same qualities now?!I hope I’m making your head spin, because it’s about time someone turned this whole thing upside down.It’s so easy to explain why I get such a strong reaction whenever I publicly say, “hey girls, hold off on the kissing for 3 months if a long term relationship is what you’re looking for”. If you want fun-fun then have all the fun-fun you want!
It was very difficult for both of us as we lived an hour apart and neither of us were ready for a kid.