18 yr old dating 25
Woman B: Twenty-seven and he recently turned 42 (we're still together). We discovered we had a lot of interests in common and became good friends. Most of the men I dated more casually at the time were in their 30s. It also made me feel special — this man seemed so much more worldly than the men my age, and the fact that he was interested in me seemed too good to be true. Woman D: Originally I think I was flattered that somebody who had experienced so much of life was interested in me.
Woman B: I rented a flat in the backyard of his then-girlfriend. But I knew he was probably 10 years older than me and that was a little bit of the attraction, because I thought that he would be older and more settled with none of the bullshit that you have in your 20s.
What did/do you friends and family think of your relationship? A couple of my friends have similar stories about dating older men: they chose the person and not the age group. Woman C: My friends were much calmer than I thought they would be — a couple said they always thought I would end up with an older man.
Woman A: I was working in retail at the time, and he was a customer. He looks younger than he is and is in very good shape.
Woman C: I knew he was older, I just didn't think that he was that much older.
As a 30-year-old woman, I understand their hesitations now.
As an 18-year-old, I thought they were close-minded.
Woman B: I was 23 when we started dating and he was 39. We got back in contact and I realized how much I missed having him in my life. Woman A: Looking back, I think he needed a partner who would tolerate his bullshit if he was to be in a relationship at all.